I’ll bet most of you who read this have either seen or heard of Oprah’s interview with Mackenzie Phillips. I’ll bet most of you have been reading about Polanski’s arrest. I’ll bet most of you don’t like the topic, for various reasons all of which fall under the heading: Secrecy. It is so like human beings to talk endlessly about viagra, STD’s, one night stands, orgasms etc. However, when you mention child sexual abuse, a deep and profound silence replaces the talking. No one has anything to say. If you mention suicide, anorexia, phobias, PTSD, self mutilation, prostitution, drug abuse, alcoholism, mental illness, people may shy away at first, but eventually they’ll drop their two cents in the jar. How ironic it is that people will talk about the effect but not the cause. Show me someone who has suffered from any one or more of those conditions and I’ll show you someone who has experienced either overt or covert sexual abuse. Of course, PTSD being the exception due primarily to the suffering of combat soldiers.
The media has become a help mate to those who abuse children. There is a mass grooming taking place in television, magazines, film, literature and art. It’s been going on a long time but now it’s so blatant and those who produce it so bold and unrepentant, that it’s like an out of control train, headed straight for any child it can reach. Children see Miley Cyrus and think: she is dressing like that and she is a kid so it’s okay. Remember that magazine shoot with her father? Children see Britney Spears gyrating in a school girl’s uniform announcing she’s not that innocent and think: If I dress like that and do that people will like me and I’ll be cool too. Children see too much. Children have had their innocence stolen by crafty adults who manipulate words and images for a living and parents who are apathetic and in denial. After a while, when people are bombarded by an image, they become desensitized to it and what is evil and obscene, becomes acceptable, allowing terrible things to happen to the most vulnerable and precious members of the human race, our kids. We all let this happen you know. We still are. Pretending it’s not there and minimizing it. This is not going to make it go away and just as an infection gradually becomes worse, destroying the host that feeds it if not treated, so too will our society be destroyed if we allow the sexual abuse of our children to flourish because we refuse to demand the arrest and serious conviction of those who abuse and those who promote it. We are living with an epidemic and it will be the end of the human race if we don’t do something to stop this scourge. How do I know? Because I have survived it and I carry those scars with me everyday.
As for Polanksi, it’s more important to note who is NOT signing the petition to have him released and to ask yourself why that is. Remember that silence I mentioned earlier? Deafening isn’t it?