The past couple of days have been troubling for those in this world who cherish freedom and peace and in particular for women and children. I was going to write this post the day before yesterday, but changed my mind as the cares of running our business and being a mother tilted my universe in the other direction. After ruminating on the ‘mother’ part this morning, I’ve decided to discuss a couple of news items and a blog post by a fellow writer that have piqued my interest for very personal reasons. My hope is that it will positively open up for discussion an epidemic that is usually dismissed as soon as it’s mentioned. Let me explain by starting with the news items. The first photo below is obvious. Singer Rihanna at singer Chris Brown’s assault trial and Rihanna covered with the bruises and blood Chris Brown inflicted on her body. I will briefly encapsulate the verdict, in case you’ve missed it: Chris Brown was found guilty as charged. He was sentenced to 5 years probation, 180 hours of community service in addition to attending domestic violence classes. For a first offence many have stated this to be harsh. What do you think? I’ve my own opinion (you just know I do), but I very much want to hear what you think. Why? Because you not only change laws, but as writers, you are artists who deal in words and they are power. Words change lives and the world. Before you comment, please look closely and contemplate those images, then scan down and look at the other image of Neda Agha Sultan, a beautiful 27 year old philosophy student who was shot dead June 20, 2009 while attending a protest against the elections in Iran. It’s pretty graphic and if you can’t tolerate that sort of thing, then please don’t watch it. I ‘ve posted only the link for this very reason. Neda’s story is far more tragic but it is still about the same thing: violence. No matter the context, why is it one human being feels it is their right to oppress, imprison, beat, murder, terrorize and torture another simply because they don’t agree and are delighting in their human right to be free. Okay, now the blog post. Here is the link
Debbie Schubert I won’t elaborate, it’s important to read it and I urge you to. Debbie is a wonderful writer and an even more wonderful person and this is a story that is all to common and happening around probably this very minute, somewhere on the street where you live.
My story. This coming August 1st, it will be seven years to the day I was beaten and my daughter was thrown in a truck and abducted by her other parent. I won’t go into details but suffice to say after three months I found her and it was truly a miracle. We were abused by the system over and over again and the person who did this got away with it. I’m sorry to say, this is usually how it all goes down for victims. Why? Because the public doesn’t demand a change to the law and the subsequent enforcment of that law. Why? Because people are hindered by the shame of it happening in their own homes. The usual picture of an abused woman, for example, is that of a weak waif, uneducated, pregnant in highschool, poor etc. The True portrait is this, but it is also, a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a dentist, a singer, an actress, a dancer, a…now get ready for this, psychiatrist, an accountant, a CEO, a pilot, a writer, a mother, a sister, an aunt, a grandmother, a black woman, an oriental woman, an asian woman, a white woman, an aboriginal woman, a persian woman etc…I think you see what I’m driving at. For all any of us know it could be YOU. It’s impossible for me to condense or distill in one blog post everything that needs to be said, but it will always boil down to the dialogue. First we must talk, then we must agree and decide, then we must inform. Fiction, fantasy, chick lit, horror, satire, poetry, no matter the genre, it’s a writer’s job to expose the truth and inform or teach through the entertaining use of words. If you don’t believe this, ask someone who has their right to use words taken away. You may see it in a new light. Okay, that’s it. Remember to send the good vibe to your fellow scribes, talk about that which makes you uncomfortable and utilize that talent you have.
Neda Aghan Sultan Protest Shooting: http://foolblogger.com/neda-agha-sultan-video/
Neda Agha Sultan